Parts of me died early on, and that’s something we can all say one way or another. I got to redesign my life around this fact, and I tell you it has been a liberation to realize you can always find a shock of beauty or meaning in what life you have left, like that snowball lasting for a perfect moment, all the while melting away. If we love such moments ferociously, then maybe we can learn to live well – not in spite of death, but because of it. Let death be what takes us, not lack of imagination.

  1. I wish I had been more loving to the people who matter the most.  Now, it’s too late.
  2. I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me. Now, it’s too late.
  3. I wish I didn’t work so hard, and lived in the now. Now, it’s too late.
  4. I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings, and not taken life for granted. Now, it’s too late.
  5. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends. Now, it’s too late.
  6. I wish I had taken care of myself and let myself be happier. Now, it’s too late.
  7. I wish I had told __ how I truly felt. Now, it’s too late.
  8. I wish I had stood up for myself more. Now, it’s too late.
  9.  I wish I had followed my passion in life. Now, it’s too late.
  10. I wish I’d taken better care of myself physically.  Now, it’s too late.
  11. I wish I’d taken more risks, and have said “I love you” more. Now, it’s too late.
  12. I wish I’d appreciated ___ more. Now, it’s too late.
  13. I wish I’d done more for other people. Now, it’s too late.
  14. Not having the courage to live truthfully. Now, it’s too late.
  15. Happiness is a Choice, suffering is optional. Now, it’s too late.

Now, please tell me what’s in it for me, why should I donate $100 to your cause?

[the quote at the top of this page is from BJ Miller of The Zen Hospice. The 15 bullets points are adapted from several sources on what are the most common regrets individuals across the world have at the time of death. You might enjoy BJ’s TED Talk “What Really Matters At The End Of Life” (19 mins)]

May you continue to cultivate the joy of giving, until it’s too late